It's something that I've learned myself in the last few years - we are all bleeding in various ways and as much as we try to polish over it with the niceties of "fine" to keep up the pretense, when we are true and real with each other, that's when proper connection happens and we see people differently...we realise that we're all human, we all have shadows as much as we have light and to drop our defences in that moment, that's when real friendships are forged. I see you, I totally get it and it's a beautiful metamorphosis we are going through. Many hugs.