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aussieninja in Reflections • last month

What a terrible photo! You can't see anyone's face, the guy seems like he could be good looking but who would know with that massive sun glare over his entire face and hooded person on the left has the biggest sunglasses I've ever seen even though they're facing away from the sun. I would fire this photographer immediately.

Relationships are easy.
All it takes is for both people in the relationship to put in the hard work to constantly maintain the relationship. Simple.

Both sets of my grandparents really didn't seem to like their spouses very much, I don't remember witnessing any affection or kindness and my grandfathers especially were honestly pretty mean to their wives... and we spent a lot of time with both sets over the school holidays. So, given that, when my parents got divorced while I was a teenager, I knew it was a good decision and they were both much happier in the long run.

I also wish that we as a society didn't have such negative feelings about relationships ending. It's totally natural and honestly, it's fine. I think part of the reason my own relationship has lasted so long is because we both know that we can leave at any time, and so we both want to put in the work to try and be the best possible person for each other, and if it ended tomorrow, that'll be sad, but it'll be okay.

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galenkp last month

It's a shame the divorce rate is so high and I think it doesn't need to be if people worked towards the same goals however, two people staying together when they clearly don't like each other seems very strange as well.

I think traditionally divorce was seen as a failure so people stayed where they were. Now, (some) people change partners almost as quickly as they change their phones or sneakers so it's becoming more accepted I guess. It's not bad if that change is made after some effort to make it work is made, but changing flippantly doesn't make me feel people have entered into the relationship with any real commitment or that they have put much effort into the things that make a relationship work.

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aussieninja last month

I was under the impression that the divorce rates were dropping over time... and I think it's generally due to less people feeling pressured to get married early.

Yeah, I definitely don't fault people for changing partners a lot, lots of people are very good at hiding their true selves for weeks, months or years and that's super not cool. I do feel like this is another area (like personal finances, etc) that we could really use better education on. If kids learnt how to resolve conflict, defuse tense situations and work on their relationships in school, I imagine the societal effects within a decade or two would be incredible.

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galenkp last month (edited)

I'm not really sure I suppose, all I know is what (for me and my partner) constituents good practices in respect of communication and other behaviours within our relationship and that treating each other respectfully and all the other aspects of what we feel a good relationship requires seems to work; people are free to choose their life, and they do, and the choices each make will ultimately deliver a result.

As for what kids learn in school, who knows...I suppose whatever agenda the government feel us appropriate at the time.

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