Everyone chooses their own path ...

Infidelity is not forgotten...and he doesn't really forgive himself either.

What is done is to learn to live with the wound, if we choose that path.

We can't forget something that hurt us so much. Nor does he become the same again.

Nor to the one who is or has been unfaithful, mockery does not heal, does not heal the broken heart 💔. Obviously, when infidelity happens, the feeling that our hearts have been broken out of mockery, disloyalty, is extremely strong, it's horrible.

Only those of us who have lived it cannot deny that emotions, besides being mixed, produce a lot of resentment.

They are really very tough, strong. But it turns out that the remedy is worse than the disease because by ridiculing the person who was unfaithful to us, he betrayed us, depending on these situations the only thing that is being generated is not only to add more resentment to our own existence, but to add to the other, (the infidel)...so, he asked me, what good is forgiveness for us? And be looking to remake the relationship if there are so many outstanding bills to pay...ah, when the unbeliever deserves the punishment!!! ☺️

Really in my experience, because if I have been through this that I am talking about "if one does not accept" infidelity, the only thing that remains is the BREAKUP of the relationship. Because if you continue in the relationship comes revenge, and all the complication that comes with psychological and even physical violence.

Betrayal by infidelity produces a lot of pain, leaving behind an almost indelible trace of uncertainty, a lot of doubt, sometimes guilt and always a lot of anger, arrechera, then.

One day you realize that it doesn't hurt anymore... and that's when the good stuff starts.

Going at our pace once we decide to let go, is going at our time, because love without reciprocity, respect or mutual growth, pity, hurts more than it heals.

As time goes by I realize that life is too short to lose it with deceptions, with links that do not contribute to me, with phrases to please or do things that do not excite me.

We get involved in conflicting loves, often because we don't know how to love without conflict in between. And maybe it has been that way since our childhood, that's the reason.

And the reason has to do with the most important commitment I have today, "to be more honest with myself, to live with my truth and what I consider right."

I believe in actions of love.

I never believe nor have I ever believed in promises of love, because when they are not fulfilled, they cease to be promises. Infidelity hurts but what hurts us the most is disloyalty, it's like having love with thorns and roses on the way.

Janitze 🌹