What a profound reflection! You touch on a very important and complicated topic at the same time. It is true that parenting involves a lot of responsibility and each family has its own dynamics. Sometimes, despite the parents' best efforts, children can take unexpected paths, and that can be frustrating. I like your idea that instead of looking for culprits, we should focus on education and how each child has been prepared to face life. The responsibility is shared, but at the end of the day, each person owns his or her decisions.