Reality can be quite distinct from fantasy and no matter how much we'd love to fantasize about ”life being a bed of roses”, reality will wake us up with a ”prickly thorn”.
I just had a session with a female friend from church. The session lasted for about an hour and thirty minutes. I didn't realize it would take this long but when I sat with her and she got talking, all I could mutter was *Is Love Wicked?”
This lady began by narrating her ordeal in the hands of her siblings to me. I know that no family is perfect but I believe that family members to a great extent are the ones who should defend you no matter what.
She continued to relay some issues she and her fourth younger brother had. He lived with her in her apartment but this young man does not contribute anything to the welfare of the home. He only sleeps, wakes up, eat and leaves the house for work. He does not take care of anything other than himself.
This young man in question is twenty-five years old and is still seeking admission into a tertiary institution currently. According to her, the bills she is taking care of now is huge and she would like him to assist her financially. She approached him to let him know but instead of complying, he turned it into a quarrel.
"Love is wicked" by Brick and Lace.
The painful thing to her now is that whenever there's an issue between them which is almost like a constant,he would not talk or relate with her. He would not greet her nor would he behave like someone who is living with a family member. This lady said that she was fed up with such inhumane characteristics and that it was stealing her peace.
Alternatively, she wants him to leave her place and go live life on his own terms, since he doesn't want to be trained or behave. After listening to her narrate all her woes, I could really feel her pain. She has gone through a lot and I felt for her.
There was something she said that struck me. ”Should I allow myself to become a waste bin, tolerating rubbish simply because I want to be a good Christian?” She asked me. Those words made me reflect deeply.
If we say we share the same faith and beliefs, then I believe that the responsibility of upholding all that is required in fulfilling the law should not be left for one person alone. I then went on to remind the lady that yes, the Christian faith preaches love your neighbour as you love yourself but it also advises us to be wise as serpents.
I advised her to do what she felt would give her peace of mind especially with footing the bills. If he doesn't want to contribute financially for the rent, electric and food bills, then he should go back to his parents and be a bottom feeder, since that is what he wants.
Love shouldn't be so hard to give because love is giving nor should love be wicked or disrespectful.
I can guess that if this lady was well to do or wealthy, her younger brother would not misbehave with her.
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Thank you all for reading... Shalom
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