It's often easy to feel sorry for oneself, to feel hard done-by or that the cards are stacked against us and so many do it, or have done it, at certain points of life; I'm no different. It's a reasonably normal or human thing I suppose and even though we know it'll not carry us forward in any better way it can be difficult to avoid...but avoid it we must.
I've learned many lessons in life, the power of ownership, responsibility and discipline amongst them; additionally is the understanding that thoughts dictate attitudes and combined they affect actions and it's all of those together that help us move forward in better ways - something that extends to pretty much all aspects of life. Want to do better? Then do better, it's pretty simple.
I was in hospital recently for testing and evaluation based around my health condition - it's a periodic thing - and the results I received were amazingly good; I use the word amazing because the doctors used it. The quacks asked how hard I work to gain those results and the answer? Well, I assume you'll know it, the answer is incredibly hard and super-consistently. That's how good results are created, not by feeling sorry for myself.
I walked away feeling pretty good - I get results like this three times a year when I go for my check-ups - and felt liked I'd ticked the ownership, responsibility, discipline, right thoughts, attitudes and actions boxes yet again. Considering the result of not doing so is a premature death it just seems like the right thing to do.
I often think about others and how they handle the same situations when I'm at the hospital surrounded by people who may be far worse off than I am. Are they maintaining the right mental attitudes or not, are they being coached on how to, do they have someone in support as I do, the right doctors, specialists, medical infrastructure, friends and family to help with the emotional side of adversity? Do they even want to stay in the right place mentally and emotionally? I don't know the answers, but I hope they're able to tick those boxes.
I'm fortunate to have had the volition to gain understanding and knowledge throughout life and I use them to good effect - I do it under my own steam - but many choose not to and I wonder if that causes them to wallow in their problems rather than see them for what they are - opportunities to do better, work harder, be mentally and emotionally stronger, and to find ways to do that. I hope the latter. The first steep is seeing the need for it I guess.
Have you ever gone out of your way to build such skills, attitudes and mindset? How have you done so? Books, seminars, podcasts, advisors and so on and if so how has the process been and what results were gained? Feel free to comment.
Design and create your ideal life, tomorrow isn't promised - galenkp
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