Where I'm from, it is believed that men have the responsibility of providing while women have the responsibility of being in the kitchen. I don't really believe this tho. What's your take on this mentality?
Ps: I'm the one doing the cooking in this picture.
I actually do not believe that either.
Remember we are partners and helpmate.
Someone like me who grew up in an only boy's house, we don't wait for my mum too cook for us. Even now that I'm not with them, I find house chores simple to do, and I'm sure it will be that way even ..
I'm sure it will be that way even when I'm married. There are times I will do the cooking, Washing, or laundry. So, women have their lives too, they shouldn't be all stuck up in the kitchen.
And doing these things doesn't make you less of a man, rather, it makes you more responsible and aware of how hard your wife is also working to ensure the family is good.
One thing I know about people's behaviour is that - it's a reflection of how they were raised from childhood and also a reflection of the good habits they see others perform and the trauma they witnessed while growing up.
Some people grow with the mindset of - Daddy stays in the parlour after work and watch NEWS, while mummy and their sisters would be in the kitchen cooking food. This is the reality for some persons while they were growing up
So, when these type of person grow up of age, they tend to want to do what their father did. They would also want to be in the parlour watching NEWS or doing whatever, while their wife be in the kitchen with their daughter (if any) cooking dinner.
Though I don't believe in gender equality, I also don't believe that the only place for a woman is the kitchen. I am not equal to my wife, as I'm stronger, and will stand up to defend her in every situation.
However, even though I see myself as I equal to my wife, that doesn't mean her sole place is the kitchen. We are partners, unequal partners. When she's in the kitchen, it's only sensible for me to help out. Wash plates when need be,
I like this.
Or even tend to the kids... She can't be cooking and also attending to the kids too... Nah
Smiles....
So true. The world is changing though. And I'm sure guy's are knowing better than to always sit down to watch news now 😁
That's true.
And it will definitely show when they later stay alone or get married
It's been a long time notion. One I don't disagree with but shouldn't be cemented given that women have their career and jobs as well, also contributing to the family in their own way.
Besides , I grew up getting used to my dad preparing lunch for my sis and I each day after school, since his job then was a night thing.
To me, I totally disagree with the fact that a woman's sole place is the kitchen. Lol..
She has her life to live. There are many other things she can do aside taking care of kids and cooking meals everytime.
Unfortunately, society has made it in a way that women have the kitchen while men provide. This has made a lot of men neglect the kitchen totally.
Ohh you seem to misunderstand me. Take out the "sole" and we're on the same page.
That just happens to be part of her duties as the homemaker and more, in the family. But of course, doesn't mean it's either her or no one else. Men should see to handling kitchen activities when they're available to do so as well.
Oh, yeah, seems like I misunderstood.. lol 😂 we're still saying slightly the same thing sha.
I also agree with you when you say that men should also see to handling kitchen activities when they are available
There should mutual understanding and support when it comes to family matters. Especially when it involves couples in the area of responsibility in the home front.A happy family is priceless.
You doing the cooking or washing is a perfect example of this in action. It doesn't make you less of a man or provider; it makes you a functional teammate.
Traditions aren't automatically bad or good; they're tools that helped groups survive in specific environments. In today's world of abundant food, appliances, and economic options, clinging to them rigidly can limit both partners. Many cultures are shifting toward more shared models without losing family cohesion. My one cent opinion.
I love your opinion on tradition. Some traditions already served their purpose and I don't think there is need to cling to them after their purpose has been served.
Mutual understanding between couples seems like an easy thing, but it's one of the most difficult in this day and age. Men don't heed to the advice of their wife, probably because they look down on her or something.
I think marriage is partnership. The society have planted each individual's role in our subconscious, however, I think it's only natural to help each other with these roles.
You have said it all. I completely agree 💯 — marriage is a partnership at its core.Society may have wired us with specific roles,but I think it is natural for couples to support each other beyond those expectations.Well said.
The chef himself 🤗.
Abeg put one plate for me my boss.
Cooking is for the both gender. It's no tied to anyone.
No worry, I go eat for two. 😂
True.. I also believe that cooking is for both male and female
People are constantly coming up with new things as their mode of thinking evolve. Do you think it's okay for a woman's place to be in the kitchen and for the man to be the sole provider?
I don't believe in such.
As for me I can cook and do my chores but sometimes as a human being I can get so occupied or tired to do anything. So I believe if both gender can do the chores it's going to help when I have my partner.
I also share in the same belief as you do in this context. Both partners should be able to work together in all ramifications, not excluding kitchen duties
Yes o.
I spent 2 months at my uncle's place and I barely cook. His wife barely cook too. Before we wake up this man has prepared breakfast. Before we think of the next meal he is already in the kitchen.☺️☺️