RE: Until Death Do We? — FoodiesUnite

I think for me, I'll question myself to see if I'm doing enough work.

What is enough? Is it enough to make them happy, or is it enough to reach your standards? Is enough 80% of your love? What happens if the enough they need is 120% of what you have to give?

Does that make sense?

I always think that the person saying that doesn't value themselves enough to end a harmful relationship.

For sure. Loving fully doesn't mean putting up with anything. One has to know their own limits and express them to the partner too.

sometimes life is a lot and we need to support or depend on our partners more than usual.

If we aren't willing to do all we can for the most important person in our life, what are we doing with this life?

Honestly, I think enough is trying to make sure their lives are better for having me in them. Am I doing enough, am I contributing in a way that makes their lives easier or better or more fun or nicer? My life is generally fairly under control so I have extra capacity to put effort into others...

... that said, I have had friendships where the other person needed way more from me than I was able to give, and they've either blown up or fizzled, which is fine, friendships evolve.

I have had girlfriends that wanted way more from me than I was willing to give, and I think part of the whole dating process is figuring out how independent or self-reliant you both want to be... it's part of the whole search for compatibility.