Difficult decisions ...

Often necessary.

It's Monday, a good day to start living what you want to live. And if it's impossible for now, then it's time to start sending the fuck everything that fucks up your happiness.

Why?

Because after your heart is broken, the worst mistake you can make is trying to cover up the love pain.

On the contrary, the best thing is to express that pain, the best thing is to go through that loving grief, pick up our broken parts and, over time, put them in their place, rebuilding ourselves from the inside, knowing that no spite gets away unscathed and that, after walking through that valley of shadows of heartbreak, we have nothing but to be reborn in our self-esteem, strengthen our self-love, be compassionate with ourselves and understand that living spite is by no means an easy thing.

Why the spite? Because being despised is literally a way of dying to be reborn.

I always say that unrequited love is always a safe bet to low self-esteem. What to do about that? when the love break comes. Living that grief, understanding that life is not a romantic movie where there is always a happy ending.

Sometimes the end is simply the beginning of a new path.

Even, if, Cupid has had a bad aim, you can always love again, but first you must love yourself, you must get up, you must recover, and so love will become present again.

Although spite is like a hurricane that destroys everything in its path, once it passes, it leaves you with the opportunity to rebuild and strengthen your emotional foundations.

Raquel is a good friend, who works with me at the University, she's been dealing with that pain for 15 days, and it's the strongest thing she's ever had to live. She tells me that she is already in therapy but that she feels that she died, she does not sleep soundly, her peace is gone, he abandoned her.

She, Raquel, says that at least she has the hope that she will get up with more strength than before. She is strong, she is brave, she trusts in God and her self-esteem so hurt step by step will be strengthened.

Definitely love should not mean losing yourself in the shadow of the other. True connection is born when you can be you, without fear, without shame.

We really are our acts and deeds.

Of thought, intentions and words we can expect nothing.

Love deeply, but don't get lost in the process. Your dignity and self-esteem are the compasses that will guide us to relationships where we will be truly valued.

I told my friend, that no one who harms her can be the love of her life and so there are many unhappy and unfortunate as her ex-partner. Those patterns we should review them very well and stay only with those that truly put the self-esteem as.priority.

Well, there are also women who also hurt their partner.

Ay Raquel, with everything and fear you decided for yourself, and you got out of that relationship where you were not treated well.

Not to be slaves of love is to live harmlessly and to be harmed. These things happen with both men and women.

Self-esteem is the best vaccine and repellent against bad loves!. Time passes and the hope that the other will change, that doesn't work, it doesn't advance.

It is unthinkable that love and aggression go together, hand in hand. Understand, if you are assaulted, there is no love.

Janitze ❤️‍🔥💔