Life is good, life can be bitter. It's interesting how mysterious life is. People make mistakes, and they learn from their mistakes. Young or old, there's at least one lesson we've all learnt from life. Tell me, what's the most important lesson you've learnt in life?
I have learnt not to be dependent on anybody, in this life you must work to survive.
This is one of the best lesson yet. Dependence... This is something I see as a venom. It slowly poison your ability to be independent, thus, making you dependent a lot on someone. I'm not saying it's not good to be dependent, but from my pov, the only person I depend on........
I don't why you are saying this .
But every other person is not a bunch of disappointment.
That the biggest and painful lesson life teaches, and I have learnt this one, because it came with a price which I paid..
It's okay, that's a lesson learnt, I don't let my pass keep me down, I have a great and bright future waiting.👌
Yeah.
Life they are is a teacher. You experience a lot of things and you can't just help but pick out a lesson from it.
For me, I've learned quite a lot. One of which is to not compare my journey to that of others.... Comparison if not guided steals one's joy/peace.
Comparison has put people in a lot of problems. It starts from parental comparison with their children peers. The parent says "look at chukwuemeka, he's doing well for him self.
He bought a car for his mom and he's building a house at the moment. You what are you doing? You're here eating my food and lazying around."
This comparison has pushed people to do a whole lot of things, both positive and negative.
I learnt to never compare myself with others, rather, I should use their success as a motivation to do better through legal means.
You get it, sir.
A lot of parents are fond of this. Some even compare older siblings to their junior ones.
True. One thing they fail to see is the trouble this would cause between both siblings
I've always held onto the words that you'll be treated just as you do to others.
But in this recent times, I don't know what to make of that anymore. Not when you treat people as good as you can possibly be and in return, they threw stones at you.
Well, still holding on to it.
Many people actually face this thing you're saying. Treat people with care and they walk over you. They don't return the care you show, rather, they treat you like you're desperate for them and their attention. They'll think you want something in return,
Or they'll probably think that you're into them, so, they start behaving anyhow. On the there hand, when you show people nonchalance, they tend to be attracted to you. They would want to come close to you and do things just so they can get a bit of your attention
Life is just like that. I've been in this situation before. I've seen how people get walked over and I've been walked over because I cared. When you care less for people and ignore their feelings, they would behave right knowing that you don't really give a damn.
You know it's pretty much easier said than done.
But still works well in most cases. But for those who are always so invested in "what people will say", I can't help but pity them 😂.
Thing is, people will always talk. If you do good, they'll talk. If you do bad, they'll talk. The only option is just satisfy your conscience. Do good the way you know how to and try not to be too caring.
How ironic! 😑
It's always either that (kissing up to you) or they simply label you as a snub.
This guy na snub, better pass this guy na mumu wey you fit get anything from.
Again, "you sabi manipulate people" better pass "this mumu don come again."
You got it just right. This new way of interaction among people is what I believed stirred the wordings going about recently;
That you showed up for others doesn't mean they will do same for you.
I also saw one about preparing oneself to hear did I ask you??... After helping someone out 🤦
That you showed up for others doesn't mean they will do same for you.
You've said it all.. you got the point.
I've learnt not to talk too much.
Especially with my gender emphasis on my "gender"
I'm talking from experience actually. I use to think if someone can share their stories,life, secrets etc with me there is nothing bad we rub minds together.
But my gender... You will regret it.
This thing also exists among some guys too. Though it's not as much as it is with females..
"They say a problem shared is a problem half solved," but I say a problem shared is a women given to people to use against you anytime, anyday. I'm not
saying it's not good to share your problems, rather, what I'm saying is to know whom you share them with. I always tell one of my female friend - "No be everybody wey laugh with you, like you. No be everybody wey congratulate you, dey happy for your achievement."
The high time you learn to keep even the smallest details to yourself, the better. You'll think you're connecting with them, but the truth is, after that connect, they would use what you told them about yourself, against you.
You're absolutely right.
I learnt that when I got to higher institution. You know, things are fresh I was open minded with everyone. Even though I know the shits they say behind my back I would act like it's nothing.
Until I shared one secret with someone I thought I've found a sister and during our final year I discovered everyone knows about it.
Omo I told myself that will be the first and last anyone will treat me that way.
Omo I have learnt never to deeply trust someone, because people can disappoint you when you don't expect..
Trust no body,shade off weak leafs and fly.
Sir, what has life taught you?because I believe there is no one in adulthood that has not experienced the bad side of life.
